Mr LikesIt wears his wedding band everyday, other than for messy chores like landscaping. I have never asked him to, he just does. He likes the ring itself, and believes in the symbolism. It's a non-issue for us, but I have to admit that I would be a little peaved if he didn't want to wear it.
It's not like William could ever pass himself off as single, but that's the first thing that comes to my mind. A wedding band screams "taken," but of course being married is much more than a piece of jewelry. Not wearing a ring doesn't make you less married - just look at my Dad, who does not wear one because of his work. It obviously hasn't affected my parents' marriage in any way. Now, it's none of my business why William has opted out, but I am curious to the reason. It's not like he's doing manual labor.
I guess I am a sucker for the symbol. It's completely personal preference, and before the wedding I would have told you that it didn't matter to me of Mr LikesIt wore a wedding ring or not. I would have argued fervently that marriage is a state of mind and a ring has nothing to do with it. Now, seeing that band on his finger makes me infinitely happy. Not only because it stakes my claim for all to see, but also because he wants to wear it. He wants to be claimed. When we said, "with this ring, I thee wed" we both meant it wholeheartedly. Those words give those small pieces of jewelry huge meaning. Frankly, I just like it.
So let's discuss. How important is your husband's wedding band to you? Did that view change after the wedding? If you're not married, how do you feel about your future-husband wearing a ring?
(and one more for good measure)
(photos care of the hilarious Kate Middleton FTW)
I completely understand. DH is in construction and there might be a time when he can't wear his ring anymore, but I LOVE seeing it on his finger, knowing that he's telling the world that he's taken.
ReplyDeleteI think it's a culture thing. A lot of men I saw when I was living in London didn't wear wedding bands (most of my professors didn't wear them). Personally though, I agree - I like the symbol.
ReplyDeleteSitting down on the couch, watching the wedding while you wear your wedding dress... I didn't want to watch the wedding but now I do. SUCH an awesome idea. I wish it wasn't so expensive for my mom to ship my dress to me because I would really do it. Really.
ReplyDeleteAlso my husband doesn't wear a ring. Doesn't bother me!
It didn't become tradition for men to wear wedding rings in North America until quite recently, like the 1950's-60's.
ReplyDeleteIn England, many many men don't wear rings. The Book of Common Prayer, the prayer book for the Church of England/Anglican Church, doesn't even have spot for the man to receive a ring. Our priest had to read it in to our Anglican wedding ceremony.
Neither DH or I wear our rings for various reasons. Doesn't bother me in the least. Anyone important in our lives knows we are married. And, our commitment to each other is what matters.
Love this post. :) Came over from WB. Hello!
ReplyDeleteI heard somewhere that wedding rings only became popular during WW1. Personally, I like the tradition but then again both D & I wore claddagh rings before we were married. I like the symbolism.
ReplyDeleteThe non-ring thing is an old British upper class thing. Well, it is and it isn't. If you look at any pictures of most royals or British gentry (men), you'll notice that none of them wear a wedding band on what we would consider their "ring finger". Most wear a signet ring on their little finger & after marriage wear the band under the pinky/signet ring just like we wear our wedding rings under our e-rings. If you can find a pic of Charles or Edward's left hands you'll see it. Apparently William doesn't like to wear any jewelry other than a watch. He's never worn a signet ring and doesn't want to wear a wedding band. Prince Phillip doesn't wear one either.
aaaand there's another useless fact I learned from my mother a long time ago. ;)