Monday, August 15, 2011

There goes the neighborhood.

The strangest thing happened this weekend.

Mr LikesIt and I woke up Sunday to find an anonymous letter taped to our front door.  It had clearly been printed on a home computer and all of our neighbors seemed to have the same thing on their doors.

The letter started off with the catchy header: THERE IS A CHILD MOLESTER IN OUR NEIGHBORHOOD.  Whoa.  It went on to detail the story of one of our neighbors attempting to convince one of the children on the street to "go with him" somewhere.  The boy told their parents, who then confronted the neighbor, who said nothing happened and "dared" them to do something about it.  Per the letter, the accused implied that he had done this before, but there was nothing they could do about it.  The letter listed his name, address, phone number, and asked us to band together as a community so that the accuser could come forward in confidence that justice would be served.

Holy crap, people.  I felt like we were being filmed for a "What Would You Do?" episode of Dateline or something.

Here's the deal.  Child molestation is a very, very serious accusation.  If this person is in fact a pedophile of any sort, there needs to be action taken, I have no doubt about that.  However, I do not think that sedition and anonymous vigilantism is really the best course of action.  Whether it's true or not, an accusation like this could incite serious and dangerous actions against this person without giving them a chance to defend themselves or prove their innocence. 

One's initial reaction is nothing less than outrage.  How dare they!  Not in our neighborhood! Unacceptable!

But then you stop and think - What if he didn't do it? Then what? How dare they!  Not in our neighborhood! Unacceptable!

After talking about it at length, Mr LikesIt and I decided to call the non-emergecny number of the local police.  He was transfered to the sex offender desk and left a message to be called back. He got that call today and they will be looking into what happened.

If this situation happened as described, law enforcement needs to know.  We live less than two miles from an early childhood education center and that needs to be taken under consideration.  If it did not happen, you cannot condemn, slander, or publicly humiliate someone for an uncommitted crime - and law enforcement needs to know about that, too.  The fact of the matter is that we have an inflammatory, anonymous letter depicting a potentially heinous attempt at taking a child a block from our home.  If it is true, then we did the right thing by calling the police.  If for any reason it is not true - if this is an exaggeration, a result of a neighborly feud, or hell, even a kid exagerrating something to get out of some sort of trouble - then this sort of harassment and accusation is despicable too.  This sort of crime would tear apart someone's life.  And so could this sort of accusation.

I don't personally understand why the neighboorhood needs to "band together" to get recourse for this sort of thing.  Why does it need to be anonymous?  Why are we condemning someone for a crime that we don't even know happened, much less happened as described?  Child abuse is unacceptable.  Defamation is not the answer.  There are other methods of recourse beyond this.  And what does the accused do now, especially if it's untrue?  I put odds on a "for sale" sign appearing in their yard before the end of the year.  Would you want to live near people that would accuse you of one of the most disgusting crimes imaginable - but not even have the nerve of accusing you to your face?

This is a lose-lose, no matter what.  Either way, something is terrible wrong on our street.  It left both of us feeling disconcerted and gross about the whole thing.  You hear about things like this on the news, but how are you supposed to react when it happens literally in your backyard?  Law officials assured Mr LikesIt that they are going to look into it, so hopefully we will get to the bottom of what really happened (if we will even find out).  I do feel better knowing it's at least in the proper hands now.

So let's discuss, shall we?  Did we do the right thing?  What would you have done if a letter like this showed up at your house?  Would your answer change if you had children at home? 

6 comments:

  1. Yes you absolutely did the right thing. There is never any harm in asking the police for help. That is what our tax dollars are for. I hope this didn't really happen but if it did then its good for people to be aware of it. Having an 11 yr old girl at home I am very worried about these people being on the streets and people/children not knowing that they are dangerous. It is one of my worst fears in life.

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  2. I think you guys did the right thing. If the letter is true then the police should investigate further, and if it is an inflammatory accusation, then there needs to be recourse for that as well. Neighbors can't go around slandering and libeling other neighbors. Defamation can be charged as a crime if it goes so far as to push them out of the neighborhood, their job, etc.
    Keep us posted on this!

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  3. I would have most definately done the same thing you guys did. It begs the question, why didn't the parents of the child call the police themselves? That would have been step one for me if I were the parents.

    I live in a neighborhood full of schools - two elementary, one jr high school, and one highschool, all within walking distance. So unfortunately, there have been reports of actual attempted child abductions and they've been handled by the police as they should. And the accused caught, thank goodness.

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  4. You absolutely did the right thing. They take these things very seriously and either way you've brought it to their attention & like you said - you've either helped expose him or helped vindicate him. It's a very scary thought - having a predator so very close. There is a Gov't site you can use to look up registered sex offenders of any kind in your area. It's not pleasant, but it's knowledge that everyone should have access to: nsopw.gov

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  5. I think you definitely did the right thing. It's a scary thought, and the police need to look into it to find the truth. I would have done the same thing. I too, don't understand the "band together" mentality of the letter - I mean, that's what the police are for. Hopefully it gets figured out soon, one way or the other.

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  6. Vigilantism is not right, slander is a serious problem, and good neighbors don't stay good neighbors with an us vs. them mentality. You were right to let the police know. You can check the sex offender registry, and see if there is anyone in your neighborhood, and you can see if the named offender in the letter is in the system as an offender and as living somewhere else and actually lives too close to a school, daycare, etc. Then you'd know if there was something to be concerned about. Otherwise, benefit of the doubt to all parties... to the accused, and to the child who was uncomfortable about something enough to talk to his parents.

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